Recognizing Abuse
Domestic abuse (family violence) is when one person in a relationship uses a pattern of behaviors to intentionally control or harm another person. It can happen in heterosexual, same-sex, common-law, separated/divorced and dating relationships. Family violence is present in homes, regardless of race, religion, age, income or education.
If you recognize any of the following behaviors in your relationship or think you may be experiencing abuse call us:
Many people think of family violence or abuse as simply physical: hitting, pushing, slapping, etc., but in fact...
it can take on many forms
Verbal Abuse
Behavior that causes harm with words
How it works:
Early warning signs:
Name calling, insults, public humiliation, yelling
Teasing that includes insults
Psychological and Emotional Abuse
Behavior intended to cause psychological or emotional distress
How it works:
Threats, intimidation, put-downs, jealousy, possessiveness, isolating a person from friends and family, destroying gifts, clothing, or letters or damaging a car, home or possessions.
Early warning signs:
Pouting when you spend time with your friends, threatening to leave you in an unsafe location, trying to control what you do.
Physical Abuse
Behaviors that inflict harm on a person
How it works:
Early warning signs:
Slapping, hitting, shoving, grabbing, hair pulling, biting, throwing objects
Going into a rage when disappointed or frustrated, teasing, tripping, pushing, threatening to injure.
Sexual Abuse
Sexual advances that make a person feel uncomfortable; sexual behavior that is unwanted
How it works:
Insisting physically, or verbally that a person who has said "no", is forced to have sex anyway
Early warning signs:
Using emotional blackmail to talk you into having sex ("if you loved me, you would…")